How do you know if you’re kinky?

So K and I are going to our first-ever munch tonight.  I’m a bit nervous, I have to admit.  I have social anxiety under normal circumstances. These aren’t normal circumstances, to say the least.  This is our first attempt to meet people who may be like us.

They may be completely unlike us, too. How do we know if we’re really kinky?  I mean, we both know that we don’t exactly ‘fit’ in our community.  We’re definitely not conservative, we believe in letting people who are consenting adults engage in practices that would be frowned upon in ‘normal’ society, and we both get excited at the thought of bondage.  But hardcore?  I’m not really sure that’s us.

How kinky do we have to be?  I am a closet exhibitionist.  I long to be dominated, tied up, even taken, but only by my hubby.  I don’ think I fit the definition of a true submissive.  I don’t want to be a slave, not sure how much I want to be controlled…..I just don’t know. I do know that our sex life has gotten a lot better since we both admitted we wanted to try more kink in the bedroom.  Wrist and ankle restraints, butt plugs, nipple clips – these are things we didn’t own a year ago.  At the same time, I shy away from real pain. It hurts, and not in a good way for me.  A little bit of pain is erotic.  Real pain just makes me cry.

So how kinky am I?  I just don’t know. How kinky do I have to be to be accepted by this community?

 

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